Never judge a book by its cover. It is an old lesson I try and live my life by, especially after meeting Robert. His life story, passion, humour and confidence in who he, quickly taught me that there is so much more to a person than the exterior.
It’s not
what you are, it’s about who you are. This lesson combines with the one above.
Who you are is what is inside of you – your gender, race, hair colour and eye
colour doesn’t matter. What matters is who you are.
Fairy tales
happen. Robert and his wife’s love, and like of each other, blossomed from
friendship, through one of the biggest transformations a man could go through. Real
life fairy tales are when your partner knows your past, goes through your
present with you and is willing to be there in your future.
There is a difference
between love and like. This was probably one of the hardest lessons I have ever
had to learn. I remember Robert asking me once if I like my boyfriend, my
immediate reaction was “I love him”. It was only when I found myself in a
situation where I truly loved someone, but no longer liked them, that Robert’s
words came flooding back to me – “you can love someone with your whole heart,
but do you like the person?”
Know who you
are. This lesson inspired the blog entry you are reading now. A few years ago
Robert signed my copy of “Trans”, his life story appears in the book. At the
time I looked at the message and though, “how odd, what is that suppose to
mean?” A few days ago I picked up the book and read the message again, I now
get it;
And to answer
Robert’s question from back then, no, “Foxy” was never a part of my identity.
It is a
message from a man named Robert that made me realise I know who I am – the good
and the bad – I know.
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